Before & After sex

Big mouth gets you in trouble. Today's relationship advice. Before & after sex are very different

Scene 1. You flirt & banter with a guy at the gay bar in the afternoon. He says he's not gay but needs gay sex sometimes. You challenge him. Say things no one has ever said to him. It's okay. You take him home. You two have hot sex.

After sex you continue to banter & challenge. He grabs you by the throat & pins you down. He reiterates that he's NOT gay. Luckily he releases you & leaves. 

You don't understand that "after" is much different than "before" sex. Before... you're overcome with desire for sex. You will say & overlook anything for sex. After... you're overcome with guilt & shame. You're weak because you finally gave into your homosexual urge. You worry you might have just caught an std. You might give it to your wife. The gay urge was so damn strong.

After sex is not the time to tease your hookup. It's time to cuddle & listen without commentary. Answer personal questions honestly. Past is the time to dispute his self-image.

Scene 2. You meet a straight guy at the gay bar at night. You tease & banter & touch. You trash-talk & challenge each other. Flirtation of the ages.

Next day the straight guy is in your bedroom. He is sober & vulnerable & quiet. You banter from the other end of the bed. The guy told you last night what he wanted. Give it to him. Go sit next to him. Let your body do the talking. The guy almost leaves. Until you shut your big mouth.

The Moral of the Story. You must change quickly with the mood of the room. There's a time to shut up. Before & after sex are very different. ♥️👉💕