Never Work Out with Family

After Action Report.

Has your wife ever asked you to teach her something? So you agree. You begin the first lesson. She laughs & dismisses your insights. Suddenly she knows more than you. 

She accuses you of mansplaining. Yes you're a man & you're explaining what she asked you to explain.  She's acting like one of her children or grandchildren. How she taught them to behave toward elders & experts.  

So in this analogy I should be flattered that my boyfriend treated me like family in public at the fitness club for all to see. He had asked me to show him my chest routine. I built up my chest to offset my spare tire. He can see my results since June. He wants to build mass to better wear a bra. No judgment. I will help.

So 2 relationship rules were broken. He didn't treat me as the person I see myself on the inside. The expert coach with 40 years experience. And he didn't treat me like a stranger. He laughed in my face as family does. 

My boyfriend reads this blog. I hope this blog does the talking for me. He already knows I broke up with a long-term partner because he couldn't get serious. He couldn't stop teasing me when I was depressed. At least I told my boyfriend about the breakup. Two of our key relationship words are serious & sensitive.

So I wonder if my boyfriend knows who I think I am. He doesn't have to agree. Like he thinks he's a strong swimmer. I think he's a weak swimmer. Okay. I love him. I know who he thinks he is.

My lover,  please get serious. Get to know who I think I am. Make the extra effort. Start treating me like that person. I will treat you like the trans woman I just met.  Even though I know you're really a man.

I guess it's a form of role play. But it's a permanent role you don't choose. It's who you think you are. Your self-image. I love that person. And I love who I think you are.

I love all of you. Let's keep working out separately like the other couples we see in the fitness club.